吵架，其實也是一種暴力，只不過打架是身體暴力，而吵架是語言暴力罷了。能打了，打架也可能自己不受傷害，而不管你多能吵，吵架都會兩敗俱傷，只會雙輸，只是看誰輸更慘，甚至雙方會同歸於盡。
吵架，一開始看似一種高聲的講理，但越吵會離理越遠，到怒吼嘶喊時，已與道理毫無關聯。受情緒的強烈刺激，人早已失去了理智，怎麼可能會講理？於是為了發洩，為了爭氣，為了面子，就會不顧一切、冷酷無情地攻擊對方，對其進行人身攻擊，人格污衊，人品抹黑，上罵人之祖宗，下咒人之子孫，罵人之狠、之毒、之辣、之苛，殘忍至極，惡劣至極。
其他動物愛打架，卻很少吵架，它們用搏鬥來決勝輸、論高低，勝王敗寇，勝王敗肉。而人則不同，它們既打架，卻更慣於吵架，不僅僅身體上傷害同類，而且精神上也摧殘同類。精神上的摧殘，即使不要命，卻會讓人傷心傷情，苦不堪言，悲不可訴，痛苦哀怨，忍受折磨，生不如死。這也是人比其他動物的殘忍之處。
吵架也許是由一方的錯誤引起，也許是因雙方的錯誤造成，但只要開始吵架，就談不上誰對誰非、誰正誰錯了。吵架者既在用別人的錯誤來懲罰自己，也在用自己的錯誤折磨自己。兩方錯誤的雙重熬煎、交錯折磨，人豈能忍受之、承重之？故，吵架傷人最甚，摧人最悲，刺人最痛。
吵架，也是一種交流，不過不是心的交融，而是恨的交鋒。
聲低則柔，聲高則硬，聲烈則如刺如鋒，鐵石相碰，何來溫柔？豈能交流？
交流需要聲低語柔，君不見，世間情侶之交流，聲款款，音綿綿，言娓娓，語潺潺，至柔之情，至暖之意盡在柔言輕語中。甚至無聲無息，不言不語，雙目相對，雙眸相碰，即會秋波橫流，春情四射，愛意飛迸。
大凡不吵架者，皆明事理，懂世道，有胸懷，有境界。你可曾見，聖人與人詬罵、高人與人吵架？
愛吵架者，皆為心浮氣躁之人，故一個吵架遍地的社會，必然是一個浮躁的社會、世俗的社會、功利的社會、沒有前途的社會。
“吵”字，從“少”，為何？那是告誡人們，吵，只能使人少了情，少了愛，少了靜，少了樂，只會生活在孤苦當中，悲戚當中，躁氣當中。豈不悲哉？+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
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